The world doesn’t need more geniuses.
The world needs more kindness.
The world doesn’t need more negativity.
The world needs more love.
My kids are smart. They adapt well. Grades are good. Yes, they sometimes talk back out of their knowledge over things that I probably knew little about, but it was really not in a rude way. And they sometimes are not (in a way) ideal to other parents, but who doesn’t? Coz each parents are having their own way of parenting and I am too.
I am a mom who care more on building their characters over grades. If they’re having good grades, I take it as a bonus. I do believe that love and kindness will take them rise high up there. Coz even in the self-centred world we are in, people will always always look up to someone who is kind and loving.
Mother Teresa, Oprah, Gandhi, etc are the ones we look up to for years over generations. Their stories don’t die. Time doesn’t kill their characters. And that’s what matters the most.
I expect my boys to understand their responsibilities and have more care about their surroundings. I am teaching them disciplines, time management, among other things that will help them in their adulthood coz being an adult don’t always means having more number in your age. Adulthood means a lot more than just birthdays.
I can’t possibly get to the results I am aiming to without being their role model coz there’s no way they can be ‘right’ without me being ‘right’ first. Example means the world for children.
I can’t expect them to respect a clean house without me giving them example that if you want a clean organized house, you need move your ass off the sofa and start cleaning and putting all the stuff back into their homes once you finish using them. If I’m carelessly leaving used cotton buds all over the house and not throwing them in the trash bins, I don’t get mad to the kids for doing the same.
If I expect the kids to get up in the morning and do their chores, I need to do it first so they can see that discipline need sacrifices like getting up early. I don’t wake up at 1pm and start yelling to the kids for not doing their chores coz getting up to a wrecked dirty house is annoying. Well hello… Look at yourself before you decide to scream at other people’s face!
You can be so proud of how smart you are. How easy you can solve mathematical formulas. How much (you think) you’ve done for the company you work for. How you are so right about anything and everything that you always think little of other’s opinions. How you live a great life for having the characters, principles, and the disciplines you are now. But it was all just you living in your perfect bubble self-centred life coz when you don’t give examples, you are just a bunch of craps.
I don’t want my kids to live in craps so I don’t give them examples of being one.